Today’s post, we delve into a thought-provoking write-up put forth by Adewole Adetomi – “LEARN TO USE ENEMIES TO YOUR ADVANTAGE”. While it sound interesting, this intriguing idea sheds light on a valuable strategy for personal growth and success. It suggests that adversarial relationships can be harnessed as powerful catalysts for self-improvement and achievement.
Friendship
With the recent happenings around, it is no news that friendship cannot be handled with mere emotions, it takes diplomacy to figure out who your friends are. And one reason a lot of people get hurt is that they have not learned to bridle their tongue and conceal their intentions.
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Most people are open books; they say what they feel, blurt out their opinions at every given opportunity and constantly reveal their plans and intentions. Perhaps you are wondering why you never get to complete a task or finish a course…this could be the reason.
Your friends took advantage of your vulnerability and dragged you into the mud. Whereas, this has been a wild goose chase for your colleagues and distant enemies BUT your carefree attitude brought it to them on a platter of gold.
Now, this is one weakness you must work on, your temperament traits notwithstanding.
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Emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is simply the capacity to be in control of one’s emotions and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously.
There is a gift God has blessed every man with, it is called “Will-power” Changing a habit requires determination, perseverance, and willpower.
As long as an idea lives in your mind, it remains a safe thought until you decide to spill it out. And letting out your thoughts and secrets should not be a bad idea if only you know the right person to talk to.
Secrecy is not advisable for any kind of relationship however, you have to learn the art of silence at times, so you won’t abort a premature baby or destroy a seed that is yet to germinate.
Always make sure you are certain about a move and that it is halfway successful before spilling it out. You know what?
“It is better to bite your tongue than to eat your words”.
-Frank Sonnenberg.
Sometimes, hiding your intentions behind the comfortable and familiar trend can help confuse an enemy posing to be a friend. You can even change your style and show up through the back door. This time around to see who is really on your side.
Mind you, that does not make you cunny or pretentious; it only makes you more cautious. Even the bible says that. “It is the glory of God to conceal a matter but the honor of kings to search it out”.
Always wait for the perfect time before making your intentions known. However, never let the presence of an enemy upset or distress you.
You are far better off with a declared opponent than not knowing where your enemies lie. In a nutshell, don’t be too trusting! And learn to always use enemies to your advantage.
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